“Real Men” is a single from Joe Jackson’s fifth studio album Night and Day. The song is a commentary on the gay culture in New York City during the early 1980s, and questions what makes a man a “real man”, perhaps an early reference to the concept of “toxic masculinity” that would arise in the 2010s...
Take your mind back, I don't know when
Some time when it always seemed to be just us and them
Girls that wore pink and boys that wore blue
Boys that always grew up better men than me and you
What's a man now? What's a man mean?
Is he rough or is he rugged?
Is he cultural and clean?
Now it's all changed, it's got to change more
'Cause we think it's getting better
But nobody's really sure
And so it goes, go 'round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are
See the nice boys, dancing in pairs
Golden earring, golden tan, blow wave in their hair
Sure, they're all straight, straight as a line
All the gays are macho
Can't you see the leather shine?
You don't want to sound dumb, don't want to offend
So don't call me a faggot
Not unless you are a friend
Then if you're tall and handsome and strong
You can wear the uniform and I could play along
And so it goes, go 'round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are
Time to get scared, time to change plan
Don't know how to treat a lady
Don't know how to be a man
Time to admit what you call defeat
'Cause there's women running past you now
And you just drag your feet
Man makes a gun, man goes to war
Man can kill and man can drink
And man can take a whore
Kill all the blacks, kill all the reds
And if there's war between the sexes
Then there'll be no people left
And so it goes, go 'round again
But now and then we wonder who the real men are
Real Men was written by Joe Jackson.
Real Men was produced by Joe Jackson & David Kershenbaum.
Joe Jackson released Real Men on Fri Jun 11 1982.
It’s a song about the age old battle of the sexes. I think your average male has had his masculinity and supremacy threatened to the point where he’s not sure what it is he’s supposed to do. Intelligent, forward thinking, in the sexual arena, is being done by women. It’s all about the way stereotype...