“Why Do I Feel Better When I Hurt You?” by Lola Young is a dark, introspective track that explores the complicated emotions behind causing pain in a relationship. Over moody production with tense beats and sparse instrumentation, Young’s vocals oscillate between vulnerability and sharpness, capturin...
[Intro]
One, from the go
[Verse 1]
Can we just get into bed?
'Cause it's getting hard to hear the things that you said
Unless it's dark, I throw words like punches at you
I like the way they almost bruise
Can we just get into bed?
[Pre-Chorus]
There's no other way around it
'Cause I know, when we talk about it
It's always the worst that we could do
[Chorus]
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Always try to put you in the worst mood
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Always try to put you in the worst mood
Why do I feel better? Why do I? Why do I?
[Verse 2]
Let's not pretend we don't find it hard
Just to accept the people we are
Throw words like punches at you
Shove tables right across the room
And let's not pretend
[Pre-Chorus]
There's no other way around it
'Cause I know, when we talk about it
It's always the worst that we could do
Real love, no, we haven't found it
Let's not even talk about it
That's nearly the worst thing we could do
[Chorus]
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Always try to put you in the worst mood
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Always try to put you in the worst mood
Why do I feel better? Why do I? Why do I? Ayy, yeah, yeah
[Outro]
Why do I feel better when I hurt you?
Always try to put you in the worst mood
Why do I feel better?
why do i feel better when i hurt you? was written by Lola Young & Solomonophonic & Conor Dickinson & William Brown (Manuka) & Adrian Simon.
why do i feel better when i hurt you? was produced by Solomonophonic & Manuka.
Lola Young released why do i feel better when i hurt you? on Fri Sep 19 2025.
It’s a really soulful and powerful song about a toxic relationship and it’s one of my favourite vocals I’ve done. I wanted a sad, ballad moment on the album as a bit of variation. Putting the tracks in order came quite naturally. I did move them around and try different things, but this is the way t...