The Weakest Home | Domestic Violence | Spoken Word

wa-inna awhana albuyooti
(…And indeed, the weakest of homes

labaytualAAankabooti
is the home of the spider,

law kanoo
if they only

yaAAlamoon
knew.)
- Surah Al Ankabut (The Spider) Quran 29:41

the weakest of homes is the home of the spider
if only
they
knew
and it’s not just because of the web
but also for what happens inside it too

the most fragile of homes
home to the most ferocious of family feuds
a husband and wife relationship that is solely based on being used
for consummation
see as soon as they finish mating
the wife would then consume
the body of her own husband
it’s disgusting
and so can the children be too
see as soon as they mature they would chew upon their own mother
as a source of food
it’s sinister
it’s crude
i
don’t wanna imagine it
but it’s true
and such the examples that are used
not because God can be cruel
but for God to prove
that the weakest of homes
are those in which the inhabitants
are abused
see marriages are meant to bring happiness
and the home is a refuge
of tranquility and comfort to all those who walk through
and if you ever do happen to fall into disputes
you must learn to understand that the marriage isn’t
always
about you

rather it’s learning to live together as one
although we are still living together as two
in a home where
everybody knows that they belong
with love..
kindness
and
mercy
so we could all just get along
and there’s no need for fighting every time something small goes wrong
because you can’t build a home upon violence
and expect it to stand strong
i mean what kind of man would harm his wife
in the darkness of the night
leaving her to bleed
as he scars her for life
having to cover up her bruises as she tries to hide them from sight

see he’s so focused on her responsibilities
but fails to realise that he also owes her
rights
see as her husband your meant to
provide..
protect..
respect..
guide
and
guard her
you are her garment
her life long partner
her prince charming
who should charm her
her knight in shining armour
but her knight has turned into a nightmare as he spends his nights trying to harm her
as she begs him on her knees

“please i need you to be calmer..”

“i urge you”

“see patience is a virtue
i never even heard you
i promise
i didn’t mean to hurt you!
please don’t be mad
and please don’t let the kids see
cause it’s not right for a dad”

it’s sickening and it’s sad that
such scenes are happening in reality
within the homes of so many broken families
it’s a calamity that we forgot
what the meaning of marriage is
did you forget that the best of you in character is

he who is best to his wife

the best of advice from the one who never harmed
a servant..
child
or
wife
in his
whole entire life

Muhammad
Sallallahu ‘Alayhi Wasallam
(peace be upon him)

he was the best of examples in how to treat a woman right
see if his wife had cooked something he had liked
he would eat it..
and if he didn’t
he would leave it..
without expressing an ounce of dislike
he would even refuse an invitation to food until his wife had also received an invite
and he would help around the house too just to make her work load light
he was the
pinnacle of being polite
and he taught us that the strongest of men
is not

he who knows how to fight

but rather
he who restrains his anger
right at the moment of strife
so have patience brother
i mean you wouldn’t allow it for your own
mother..
daughter
or
sister
you wouldn’t bear to watch another man punch and kick her
so the next time you even think to cause
her trauma
and hit her
you need to understand that she too is another
man’s mother..
daughter
or
sister

so dear sister
no human being deserves to
live a life of violence alone
so if he doesn’t treat you with kindness
don’t live in silence trying to fight this on your own
rather seek help from God first
and don’t be afraid to then pick up the phone
and let your people know
that you are no longer willing
to live in
the weakest
of homes

Violence Against Women…

Islam says…

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