Losing Control

When I realized
That losing your temper was a sign of weakness
As soon as I made that connection
I said to myself, "This is weak I'm gonna try not to do it anymore"
And what's weird is when you're a kid
And you'd see someone get angry and it made you afraid
For a while, I saw it as like a power
A way to achieve power
That you can lose your temper and then all of a sudden
You have this extra strength and
But when you're a little kid, if I could get that rage going
And people are scared, like I used to feel, that's a positive thing
And then, as I got older
I realized, hey
This isn't cool
This isn't strength, it's actually weakness
And I didn't realize that overnight, but I started getting the idea
That that was weakness
And now when you see someone that is in control
And even when bad things are happening, standing stoically, said, "Okay"
"Let me take another look at that and I'll get it done"

[Chorus]
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness

What are the pre-event indicators
That show you or reveal to you that your temper is about to be lost?
What are they?
You clench your fists, right?
You raise your voice, and you start doing that stuff
You start the heavy breathing
You flare your nostrils, right?
'Cause that's an animal thing where you're gonna take in more oxygen
So you open up the nostrils 'cause you're about to get after it
What indicators do you have when you know that you're starting to feel that?
And as soon as you feel that
You detach, you go, "Oh, that's what that is that's an indicator
And it's a weakness
And I don't like weakness, so I'm not gonna allow it"
And then take a breath, nod your head slowly in the affirmative
Like, I understand this is the way things are I accept this

[Chorus]
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness

[Chorus - Akira]
Okay, when you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, when you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness

And then you're seeing whatever, you know, guys will count to 10
You know, you tell your little kids that
Tell your little kids when they start losing their temper
"You know, you need to count to 10"
Count to 10, count to 100, count to 1,000, whatever is you gotta do
And get control because
If you're losing control, it's not strength, it's weakness
If you're losing control, it's not strength, it's weakness

[Chorus]
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, if you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness

[Chorus - Akira]
Okay, when you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, when you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness
Okay, when you're losing control
It's not strength, it's weakness